*This article is not a endorsement of Polygamy or is a call for men or women to create polygamous households. It is a article that is advocating for those men and women that decide to take this path to do it in a Lawful Torah based way. We will make one more article in this series so that we cover all of our bases on this subject. Polygomy is lawful based on Torah and needs to be done correctly so that those who choose this path do it without sin (breach of YAHUAH’s law). A Set-Apart Calling for Set-Apart Women   Polygyny in Israelite culture is lawful, but it’s also weighty — not just for men, but for the women who enter into it. Being one of several wives doesn’t mean being less important — it means walking in a set-apart role that requires faith, maturity, and purpose. In a culture influenced by feminism, competition, and emotional independence, it’s easy to see other wives as rivals. But in Torah, righteous women worked together to build strong households, not tear them down. This article offers Scripture-based counsel to women called into polygynous marriage, showing how to walk in strength, humility, and honor while protecting their spirit and their household. Know What You’re Entering: Covenant, Not Competition   Marriage is a covenant, not a contract. And in polygyny, each wife enters a covenant with the husband — and must also build a relationship with her fellow wives. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”— Amos 3:3 Before joining a polygynous family: Pray and seek YAHUAH’s clarity on if this is the correct path for you Understand the man’s leadership style and spiritual maturity Ask yourself if you can live in unity with another woman Be sure your motives are righteous — not rooted in loneliness, desperation, lust or pride If you enter a covenant with the wrong spirit, you bring chaos. Enter with reverence for YAHUAH and the order He commands. Submission Is Power: Embracing Your Role Without Losing Yourself   Submission is not weakness — it is power under discipline. “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the ELOHIM.”— Colossians 3:18 Submission is: Trusting your husband’s judgment Not undermining him in front of others Not competing with other wives for control Not using your emotions to manipulate situations This doesn’t mean silencing your voice. You have value, thoughts, and insight — but all must be presented in wisdom, not rebellion. Remember: the Most High honors women who build up their homes, not those who seek to rule them. Build with Your Sister, Not Against Her   You and the other wives are not enemies — you are co-builders of a righteous family. You may not always feel close, but you must always act in love. “Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another…”— Romans 12:10 Practical wisdom: Speak well of the other wife, even in private Share resources, ideas, and time with mutual respect Avoid comparing attention, gifts, or affection Don’t compete to be “the favorite” You both serve the same household. You can either protect it together or pull it apart in jealousy. Guarding Your Heart: Managing Emotions in Righteousness   It’s natural to feel: Jealousy Insecurity Resentment Loneliness But how you handle those feelings determines your spiritual fruit. “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”— Jeremiah 17:9 Sisters must: Bring emotions to YAHAUH in prayer before they have outbursts Journal, fast, or speak with older righteous women for guidance Avoid bringing gossip or slander to the husband Refuse to let temporary feelings become lasting sins Emotional balance is part of your strength. A stable spirit honors YAHUAH and keeps your house from falling apart. Time Sharing and Intimacy: Managing Expectations   In a polygynous household, you will not have full-time access to your husband. This can be challenging — especially when intimacy and attention feel limited. “Her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.”— Exodus 21:10 But “duty of marriage” doesn’t mean constant attention. It means balanced, committed time and care. Here’s how to walk wisely: Respect his time with other wives Don’t schedule or interfere with his obligations unless necessary Express needs calmly — not as demands Use your alone time for spiritual growth, business, homemaking, or rest Avoid clinging or competing. Love that is secure does not need to dominate. Children and the Shared Family   If the other wife has children — or you do — it’s important to build a shared village, not fragmented tribes within one household. Torah commands us to teach our children together: “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children…”— Deuteronomy 6:7 Tips for peace: Help with each other’s children when appropriate Don’t compare how the husband treats your kids vs. hers Discipline should be consistent and unified Children should never hear negativity about other wives from you You are not just building your own legacy — you are contributing to the nation of Israel. Financial Stewardship: Be a Helper, Not a Burden   A righteous woman helps the house prosper — she does not drain it. “She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”— Proverbs 31:27 A Torah-based wife: Manages the home with diligence Builds and contributes wisely when possible Does not overspend or bring vanity into the home Teaches her children to be content, clean, and productive Your husband may carry the weight, but you help him stand. You are not a dependent — you are a helper. Spiritual Growth: Your Relationship with YAH Matters Most   Whether your husband gives you time or not, whether the other wife is kind or not — your walk with YAHUAH is your anchor. “Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the ELOHIM, she shall be praised.”— Proverbs 31:30 Spend time: In the