*This article is not a endorsement of Polygamy or is a call for men or women to create polygamous households. It is a article that is advocating for those men and women that decide to take this path to do it in a Lawful Torah based way. We will make one more article in this series so that we cover all of our bases on this subject. Polygomy is lawful based on Torah and needs to be done correctly so that those who choose this path do it without sin (breach of YAHUAH’s law).
A Set-Apart Calling for Set-Apart Women
Polygyny in Israelite culture is lawful, but it’s also weighty — not just for men, but for the women who enter into it. Being one of several wives doesn’t mean being less important — it means walking in a set-apart role that requires faith, maturity, and purpose.
In a culture influenced by feminism, competition, and emotional independence, it’s easy to see other wives as rivals. But in Torah, righteous women worked together to build strong households, not tear them down.
This article offers Scripture-based counsel to women called into polygynous marriage, showing how to walk in strength, humility, and honor while protecting their spirit and their household.
Know What You’re Entering: Covenant, Not Competition
Marriage is a covenant, not a contract. And in polygyny, each wife enters a covenant with the husband — and must also build a relationship with her fellow wives.
“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”
— Amos 3:3
Before joining a polygynous family:
Pray and seek YAHUAH’s clarity on if this is the correct path for you
Understand the man’s leadership style and spiritual maturity
Ask yourself if you can live in unity with another woman
Be sure your motives are righteous — not rooted in loneliness, desperation, lust or pride
If you enter a covenant with the wrong spirit, you bring chaos. Enter with reverence for YAHUAH and the order He commands.
Submission Is Power: Embracing Your Role Without Losing Yourself
Submission is not weakness — it is power under discipline.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the ELOHIM.”
— Colossians 3:18
Submission is:
Trusting your husband’s judgment
Not undermining him in front of others
Not competing with other wives for control
Not using your emotions to manipulate situations
This doesn’t mean silencing your voice. You have value, thoughts, and insight — but all must be presented in wisdom, not rebellion.
Remember: the Most High honors women who build up their homes, not those who seek to rule them.
Build with Your Sister, Not Against Her
You and the other wives are not enemies — you are co-builders of a righteous family. You may not always feel close, but you must always act in love.
“Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another…”
— Romans 12:10
Practical wisdom:
Speak well of the other wife, even in private
Share resources, ideas, and time with mutual respect
Avoid comparing attention, gifts, or affection
Don’t compete to be “the favorite”
You both serve the same household. You can either protect it together or pull it apart in jealousy.
Guarding Your Heart: Managing Emotions in Righteousness
It’s natural to feel:
Jealousy
Insecurity
Resentment
Loneliness
But how you handle those feelings determines your spiritual fruit.
“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”
— Jeremiah 17:9
Sisters must:
Bring emotions to YAHAUH in prayer before they have outbursts
Journal, fast, or speak with older righteous women for guidance
Avoid bringing gossip or slander to the husband
Refuse to let temporary feelings become lasting sins
Emotional balance is part of your strength. A stable spirit honors YAHUAH and keeps your house from falling apart.
Time Sharing and Intimacy: Managing Expectations
In a polygynous household, you will not have full-time access to your husband. This can be challenging — especially when intimacy and attention feel limited.
“Her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.”
— Exodus 21:10
But “duty of marriage” doesn’t mean constant attention. It means balanced, committed time and care. Here’s how to walk wisely:
Respect his time with other wives
Don’t schedule or interfere with his obligations unless necessary
Express needs calmly — not as demands
Use your alone time for spiritual growth, business, homemaking, or rest
Avoid clinging or competing. Love that is secure does not need to dominate.
Children and the Shared Family
If the other wife has children — or you do — it’s important to build a shared village, not fragmented tribes within one household.
Torah commands us to teach our children together:
“And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children…”
— Deuteronomy 6:7
Tips for peace:
Help with each other’s children when appropriate
Don’t compare how the husband treats your kids vs. hers
Discipline should be consistent and unified
Children should never hear negativity about other wives from you
You are not just building your own legacy — you are contributing to the nation of Israel.
Financial Stewardship: Be a Helper, Not a Burden
A righteous woman helps the house prosper — she does not drain it.
“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”
— Proverbs 31:27
A Torah-based wife:
Manages the home with diligence
Builds and contributes wisely when possible
Does not overspend or bring vanity into the home
Teaches her children to be content, clean, and productive
Your husband may carry the weight, but you help him stand. You are not a dependent — you are a helper.
Spiritual Growth: Your Relationship with YAH Matters Most
Whether your husband gives you time or not, whether the other wife is kind or not — your walk with YAHUAH is your anchor.
“Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the ELOHIM, she shall be praised.”
— Proverbs 31:30
Spend time:
In the Word daily
Praying for your household and your heart
Seeking wisdom from elders and Scripture
Fasting during emotional struggles
A spiritually strong wife can stabilize a home, uplift her husband, and encourage the other wives — even in seasons of trial.
Royal Daughters in a Sacred Order
Polygyny isn’t easy. It tests pride, patience, and faith. But for women called to this life, it is also a high calling that mirrors the strength of our foremothers.
From Sarah to Leah, Rachel to Abigail — righteous women endured hardship but never abandoned their purpose. They submitted with dignity, loved with wisdom, and stood in strength.
If you are in a polygynous household:
Love your husband in honor
Respect the other wife in righteousness
Build your home with clean hands and a faithful heart
YAHUAH sees your sacrifices. And in due season, you shall reap if you faint not.
“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”
— Proverbs 14:1
Shalom,
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